Goals Changed For The Better | A New Chapter

We all have a plan for our lives, whether it’s short term; ‘lose five pounds’, or long term; ‘I want to have a career in XYZ by the time I’m 30’. We all also know, that life likes to get in the way of our plans.


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#goals graphic, created with Fotor by @melissaholden94


My original life plan (at 16) was as follows:

  • Do A-Levels
  • Get a job and earn money
  • Go on lots of holidays
  • Get married
  • Get a Husky called Jeff
  • Learn to drive
  • Get a big house

…And that was effectively all I wanted from life.

Then, at 18, this was my plan:

  • Go to university
  • Get a degree
  • Get a part-time job
  • Save loads of money
  • Write my first book
  • Go travelling
  • Rent a house with friends
  • Get a tattoo

I did well on some points, and not so well on others.

At 20, my plan looked a little like this:

  • Get a temp job in home town
  • Go do my Master’s in October 2015
  • Graduate
  • Rent a house with Ashleigh
  • Go travelling
  • Pay off my overdraft
  • Save money
  • Learn to drive
  • Write more books

20-year-old Me was ambitious and didn’t plan for other people to affect her life plan. I had to move back home to be close to an ill family member. I had to leave all my uni friends behind and get a job in Bluewater.


What I also didn’t expect, was to have graduated my Bachelor’s degree, moved back to the home town I hate, and fall in love with my new ‘supposed-to-be-for-six-months’ job. I ended up with a good, stable job in optics, and didn’t follow the plan. I didn’t start my Master’s degree in October. Instead, I was doing training at work to improve my skill set.

I ended up with a good, stable job in optics, and didn’t follow the plan. I didn’t start my Master’s degree in October. Instead, I was doing training at work to improve my skill set. I also, 2 years in, ended up being promoted to a Team Leader position, and am loving it.

I also didn’t move in with my best friend, because she moved back home to be close to her family, and to look after herself  – cannot argue with that, really.

Now, at 22 (nearly 23), my plan looks more like this:

  • Save my Student Loans and pay off my overdraft
  • Start my Master’s in October 2017
  • Graduate in June 2018
  • Finish writing Finding Jennifer
  • Move out to my own place
  • Start looking for ‘love’
  • Spend more time with my friends and family
  • Be present in the moment
  • Be positive
  • Blog more
  • Read as many books as possible

Perhaps some of those are loftier than others, but I love all my goals and aspirations the same. I am glad that my priorities have changed because it means I have grown and developed as a person, and I’m pretty proud of that.

What are your goals in life, and have they changed over the years? 


I GRADUATED! | Melissa Holden

After three years, it’s over. I am a graduate. I’ve joined “the elite”, the middle class, the non-idiots.

Hello Internet, my name is Melissa Holden BA (Hons), graduate of Creative and Professional Writing from Canterbury Christ Church University. *cue happy dance*

I graduated with an Upper Second Class, wrote seven books, made 200 new acquaintances and 8 friends for life. I’ve learned that the best lessons can be learned at 3 a.m on the dance floor as well as in the classroom. I’ve been taught to embrace life and smile a little more (just not in front of the camera!)

And I’ve met the world’s future superstars – they just don’t know it yet. I’ve met the aunts and uncles and (non)godparents of my future children, and I’ve broken my own heart five different times. I’ve drank too much, cried a lot and slept four hours a day. I’ve been more creative over the past three years than my entire life combined.

I am honoured to get my BA Hons and I will always be grateful to the lecturers that gave a poor kid a chance: you’ve changed my life and I will never stop thanking you.

Sleep (poem)

It’s 11:33 UK time, and I can’t sleep.

It’s weird, sometimes I find myself nodding off in the middle of the day. Other times, I wonder how I ever slept…




I’m not avoiding you, 

I swear.

But sometimes, just sometimes:

I believe we are enemies.

You evade me,

you entice me.

You end my days,

but you bring me new ones.

Is the death of a day,

the same as the birth of one?



are you a friend?

You bring me joy,

in my dreams.

You relax me,

you keep the world still

as I close my eyes.





Will I ever sleep again?

Are you coming to get me?



are you a person?

Are you the strange blur

of a figure

in our dreams, 

running through the field of stars?

Or are you the stuff of


who creaks floorboards in the




you are loyal:

every night. No matter what.

You give us the stars, 

so we may dream a little longer.