Goals Changed For The Better | A New Chapter

We all have a plan for our lives, whether it’s short term; ‘lose five pounds’, or long term; ‘I want to have a career in XYZ by the time I’m 30’. We all also know, that life likes to get in the way of our plans.

 

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#goals graphic, created with Fotor by @melissaholden94

 

My original life plan (at 16) was as follows:

  • Do A-Levels
  • Get a job and earn money
  • Go on lots of holidays
  • Get married
  • Get a Husky called Jeff
  • Learn to drive
  • Get a big house

…And that was effectively all I wanted from life.

Then, at 18, this was my plan:

  • Go to university
  • Get a degree
  • Get a part-time job
  • Save loads of money
  • Write my first book
  • Go travelling
  • Rent a house with friends
  • Get a tattoo

I did well on some points, and not so well on others.

At 20, my plan looked a little like this:

  • Get a temp job in home town
  • Go do my Master’s in October 2015
  • Graduate
  • Rent a house with Ashleigh
  • Go travelling
  • Pay off my overdraft
  • Save money
  • Learn to drive
  • Write more books

20-year-old Me was ambitious and didn’t plan for other people to affect her life plan. I had to move back home to be close to an ill family member. I had to leave all my uni friends behind and get a job in Bluewater.

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What I also didn’t expect, was to have graduated my Bachelor’s degree, moved back to the home town I hate, and fall in love with my new ‘supposed-to-be-for-six-months’ job. I ended up with a good, stable job in optics, and didn’t follow the plan. I didn’t start my Master’s degree in October. Instead, I was doing training at work to improve my skill set.

I ended up with a good, stable job in optics, and didn’t follow the plan. I didn’t start my Master’s degree in October. Instead, I was doing training at work to improve my skill set. I also, 2 years in, ended up being promoted to a Team Leader position, and am loving it.

I also didn’t move in with my best friend, because she moved back home to be close to her family, and to look after herself  – cannot argue with that, really.

Now, at 22 (nearly 23), my plan looks more like this:

  • Save my Student Loans and pay off my overdraft
  • Start my Master’s in October 2017
  • Graduate in June 2018
  • Finish writing Finding Jennifer
  • Move out to my own place
  • Start looking for ‘love’
  • Spend more time with my friends and family
  • Be present in the moment
  • Be positive
  • Blog more
  • Read as many books as possible

Perhaps some of those are loftier than others, but I love all my goals and aspirations the same. I am glad that my priorities have changed because it means I have grown and developed as a person, and I’m pretty proud of that.

What are your goals in life, and have they changed over the years? 

 

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After Us |99p Kindle Sale!

KINDLE BOOK SALE | Melissa Holden, Mark Looker, Edd Hodsdon and Lorna Holland

To celebrate the appearance of colder, shorter winter nights and crunchy autumn leaves, we’ve decided to put AFTER US on sale!

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When the world ends, what comes AFTER US?

Featuring stories from Edd Hodsdon, Melissa Holden, Lorna Holland, and Mark Looker, AFTER US explores the effects of an apocalypse on the survivors.

AFTER the apocalypse the laws and rules of the old world bind US no more, and mankind’s true, savage nature takes over.

AFTER the apocalypse, none of US will ever be the same again…

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Stories Include: Behind Bars, Cure In Age, Keep Your Friends Close, Lonely In A Crowd, Strangers On The Road, Silent Screams, Sally Lin

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Lazy Sunday [a poem by Melissa Holden]

Staying in bed, all wrapped up tight,

the heating’s on, and the house is quiet

Mom’s put the kettle on, bacon’s on the grill

she hands you a cup of tea – try not to spill!

Everyone chats, the TV’s on somewhere

Your little brother’s still playing with Ted The Bear.

There’s no need to get dressed today.

Why? Because it’s a lazy Sunday.

Daily Prompt: Long Exposure

Among the people you’ve known for a long time, who is the person who’s changed the most over the years? Was the change for the better?

I think that would be my mother.

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When I was a child, she was a fragile quiet mess. Now she is a loud confident woman who can stand her ground. We may not always see eye-to-eye, and we certainly have different outlooks of life, my I am proud of her growth.

She used to be someone you ignored dismissed, but now people walk into a room and notice her. Yes, she’s gotten older but that hasn’t stopped her.

My mother is loved by so many people in her life, just because she doesn’t have Facebook – doesn’t mean she doesn’t have friends. The people that love her make the effort to see her face-to-face and spend time with her.

Perhaps when I’m a mother myself, I’ll idolize her even more for her strength and courage, but for now I shall have to admire that strength from my daughter-role and commend that everyone in her life love her for who she is.

Daily Prompt: Long Exposure

DAILY PROMPT: In The Summertime

To check out this week’s Daily Prompts, click here.

As usual, I make pretty big plans for my summer.

  • Go back to France for the day
  • Go to Scotland
  • Visit my family in Wales
  • Finish and publish my new novel
  • Start another novel
  • Get some short stories published
  • Move house
  • Get a second job
  • Blog daily
  • Sunbathe
  • Visit my boyfriend more often

The usual rubbish.

I think I’m looking forward to the lack of stress this summer (that is after I have moved house). That way I will have time, and patience, to sit down every day and write – which so far, is not happening.

Got any tips for me to de-stress? Comment below or Tweet me @melissaholden94

Daily Prompt: Don’t You Forget About Me

“Imagine yourself at the end of your life. What sort of legacy will you leave? Describe the lasting effect you want to have on the world, after you’re gone.”

For today’s, and many other Daily Prompt’s: click here.

When I leave this world, I hope: I will never die.

My words will be permanently etched into the world, as my stories, my books. My books are my legacy.  I hope one day, my words will give someone the escape they need, if only for a few hours, so that they might have a chance in this dying world of ours.

I hope I have left behind a loving family, and children. I want to leave behind a world without pollution, and with hope.

I want to leave behind a son, who wants to walk among the stars some day. I want to leave behind a little girl, who is proud of herself, and aims high. I want to leave behind a husband, who will always remember me.

We all leave a mark on the world. Mine will be my words, my ashes, and my love.